#1 CONFIDENCE Expert: The Brutally EASY Way to Eliminate Self-Doubt FOREVER!
Video Overview & Insights
Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Shadé Zahrai to explore how self-doubt quietly influences our decisions, and what it takes to rebuild trust in ourselves. Shadé unpacks the psychology behind impostor syndrome, fear of failure, and the inner stories that convince people they’re not ready or not enough. Together, they examine how the brain’s need for certainty drives worst-case thinking, and why that protective instinct often keeps us stuck, even when opportunity is right in front of us.
Such an amazing interview. I really could identify myself through your speech. I'm still straggling to get to know myself, so, was really nice for me to listen you two guys. Thanks for this such a nice interview!
Shadé offers grounded frameworks, from shifting “should” into “could” to create more possibility, to designing simple action plans that help regain a sense of control when things feel overwhelming. Shadé reflects on purpose, care, and leaving people better than we found them, while Jay highlights that trusting yourself doesn’t mean never experiencing doubt. Together, they explore how self-image is shaped by the feedback we internalize, why criticism tends to linger longer than praise, and how healing emotional “scars” allows us to move forward without self-sabotage.
In this interview, you'll learn:
I love Jay Shetty. He is brilliant and insightful. Thank you!
How to Trust Yourself Again
How to Stop Letting Self-Doubt Inform Your Decisions
Best podcast ever made in the YouTube history ❤
How to Reframe Impostor Syndrome as Growth
How to Turn Fear Into Forward Action
A meaningful conversation. It makes me want to read her book.
Please, more guests like her.
How to Shift From “Should” to “Could”
How to Take Action When You Feel Stuck
I needddd to note all this it’s so beneficial
How to Heal the Self-Image Behind the Self-Doubt
Confidence isn’t the absence of fear; it’s the willingness to move forward even when fear is present. Every step you take, no matter how small, strengthens your trust in yourself and reminds you that you are capable of learning, adapting, and becoming more than you were yesterday.
Always the best guests
Pre-order Shadé’s new book, Big Trust, to dive deeper into the framework for rebuilding self-trust and breaking free from self-doubt:
Self-Doubt is major issue.
https://www.shadezahrai.com/bigtrust
With Love and Gratitude,
One of the best interviews I’ve seen! Fascinating, applicable and transformative!! 👏🏽
Jay Shetty
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"the brain" there is a little bit more into it, got me. Dr Shade knows how to do the highlight in a better way.
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What We Discuss:
Conference Some how coms from money and as well as family ricchness.and never being bullied by someone.
00:00 Intro
00:28 What Drives Self-Doubt?
Absolutely true. When we see something in our mind and feel it as it's already our reality it becomes our reality sooner than later. I have dozens of proofs in my life experience. We just need to see the picture in our mind, to have the feeling at that one moment when it's already a reality. Then let it all go as a desire and just take it as it is a reality. It's just a matter of some time to have it, to be it. Too much desire introduces resistance to the process. Don't desire it, just accept it as a reality.
01:38 The Power of Your Self-Image
05:34 The Four Pillars of Self-Image
I kind of had to laugh when that Lady starts the explain the 4 characteristic.....but not because it 2as funny or wrong. It was quite opposite.
07:24 Struggling With Self-Acceptance
15:14 How Lack of Acceptance Fuels Perfectionism
Great! "Stop standing in front of the mirror waiting to "feel ready." True confidence isn't the input you need to start—it is the output of moving forward while you are absolutely terrified." From The Lighthouse Protocol Serie: https://youtube.com/shorts/2cWhkDG3-Sw?feature=share
19:30 Shifting From Comparison to Emulation
26:36 Becoming Before You Believe
OMG. Her Communication skills 🥰🥰
31:22 Why the Brain Craves Certainty
37:07 Do You Ever Feel Like You’re Not Enough?
Jay just got me today, 😂 thanks guys. Indeed its a masters class Dr.Shades.
43:30 Learning to Detach From Labels
52:23 The Self-Talk That Keeps You Grounded
This lady is the definition of a genius
59:44 Believing You’re Capable
01:04:54 Everyone Experiences Self-Doubt!
you are gold. I love your confidence and charismatic personality
01:07:29 What Actually Replaces Self-Doubt?
01:13:53 Getting the Job Even When You Feel Underqualified
So nice to hear this... thank you..🎉
01:22:26 Understanding Key Differences Between Men and Women
01:25:30 Why Constant Complaining Signals Low Self-Trust
Competition is mostly an illusion; the only meaningful contest is between who you are today and who you are capable of becoming. Most people chase the how, how to gain, achieve, and be recognized, while few question the why beneath their desires. When the why awakens, life is no longer ruled by craving but guided by purpose. What you observe, the thoughts, fears, roles, and identities moving through you, is not the true observer itself. The one who witnesses the noise was never the noise. In that awareness, you stop competing with the world and begin mastering the self that has always been present.🪭
01:35:44 Growth After Trauma
01:42:25 Why We Focus on What We Can’t Control
best podcast ever
I learn a lot from this video.
01:49:17 Learning to Adapt to Your Emotions
01:55:01 Creating Your “I Could, I Will” List
Absolutely loved this podcast❤😊
01:58:38 Shadé on Final Five
Episode Resources:
One of the best Podcasts so far. Thanks, Jay and Dr.Shadé
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Such a valuable conversation.
Jay, love what you said about networking events and to shifting to speaking deeper with one person, rather than scratching surface with many!! I had the same issue in networking events and now you changed that for me 🙏🏼
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Djt has a combination of 2 or all 4 of those hindrance behaviors! I truly believe every person is born with a chromosome that attribute to WILL POWER and there's one that balances self-esteem and confidence against cockyness!
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❤ the podcast made so much sense.
I have to envision everything I do to mentally prepare my mind and body to the outcome if it were to be successful
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Amazing podcast -topic. Thanks, Jay.🙏🏼🙏🏼🔥🔥
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More User Perspectives
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@BakhtiyorKurambayevReally good conversation jay sir and Dr.shade it will helpful to me
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Thank you all for existing in this world ❤
Thank you jay for such such awesome show❤🎉😊
@echoesovtiimeThis podcast is incredibly powerful.
@MindsetConfidentialNice one Jay, great convo and great insights
@withdeandraeGreat video! 👍
@DylanGanster-h6cYou're doing great!
@DylanGanster-h6cBeautiful conversation from start to finish. Thanks Jay and Shade!
There were many useful nuggets in the conversation but my take-away was "If you want it, Ask for it!".
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@missdeeleythank you
@SecureLovePsychologyVery insightful
@maurinemo9211She sounds like AI. This is scary😂
@Princess-u8z8dVery well done, appreciate this video!
@Charm74-j9cLoving this podcast😊
So much learn to it.
I am almost at the 1hr 30min mark and just had to pause and say I'm extremely grateful to receive this level of insight and perspective. I'm so excited to grow and implement what I've heard today!!
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