LET GO, MOVE ON, and HEAL After a Toxic Relationship

I recently escaped a relationship like this. She would limit my access to everything, create 1 sided rules, punish every little mistake, get physical anytime she didn’t like when I defend myself. I came in and said ‘I’m gonna do everything right!’ And in the end I had to leave to save myself. I firmly believe, had I not left, she would’ve 💀 me.

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I am so close to giving up on love all together… Can’t get hurt like this again

Why when you give so much someone is selfish and dont care about all the love they showed

There’s so much more to you than what happened to you. It’s horrible to love someone who would take advantage of our kindness and leave us heartbroken at the end of it. But they don’t get to write our future, we do. We the givers are the ones that are precious, one day someone who sees and treasures that will enter our lives 🎉❤

To anyone who is arachnophobic, this video includes closeup of a spider eating an insect. It triggered my spider fear immediately so I just want to warn other potential viewers >< Otherwise, good video

For me it's not about meeting someone, I am in such freeze mode I am not able to even make a decent living let alone career he ruined my crucial career building years and after that I wasted 5 years recovering and surviving but I couldn't now I want to but I am still in freeze mode

Has anyone actually managed to heal from this

I've been in a relationship with my gf for 3 years. Throughout those 3 years I've tried everything I could to be the best boyfriend that she deserved. I tried my all to be the exact opposite of her past ex's, and it was perfect and we rarely had any arguments and we loved each other. About an week ago she told me that she cheated on me with an guy that she only met 10 days ago claiming that she's emotionally attached to him and is still dealing with him.

I felt betrayed and heartbroken, but since i was also dealing with depression during that time (she knew) I was afraid of losing her because I allowed the relationship to become my identity and I put her first before myself. Since i was afraid of losing her, I basically begged her to remove him and promised that i'll be there for her more even when i was dealing with depression. We sort of got into an argument. Told me that she wanted a break only to find out that she re-added the guy during the break and just wanted to distance herself away from me.

Asked her if she truly loved me and she said to me that she love both of us and don't know who to choose. I was hurting even more because I knew deep down that she loved him more than me despite us being together longer. I even told her that i would leave if she didn't remove him, but she refused. My heart was on a rollercoaster for 7 days until i broke down and accepted the fact that it wasn't going to work out soon as she made that first step to cheat.

It hurt like hell, especially since she was my second true love but things happen for a reason and I just accepted that fact and I learned to move on. Not holding any grudges between her or the guy because life is too short for that. I'm going to spend this time healing myself and becoming the best version of myself mentally

After 10yrs he cheated. As soon as I started to move on he came back all the attention and was so persistent until. I caved. Then he went back to her. He just wanted to sleep with me. I know he’s an awful man. I’m just destroyed. I don’t like to believe that ppl are so evil. But he is.

I just broke up with my ex. Even though she mentally, verbally and even physically abused me I’d be the one to have to apologize and even so I miss her greatly. She wanted to control every part of my life and I thought they by allowing her to it would make her happy but it was never good enough.
I feel subhuman. I know it wasn’t good, it wasn’t healthy and I could tell it was destroying me but I still love her and miss her. I’m trying really really hard not to reach out.

God help me. I need your strength. I’ve never been a believer but I need help. I need some thing greater than me to dig me out. Pray for me.

I'm afraid of going to work tomorrow. My brain is literally not functioning anymore because of this toxic breakup shit.

I’m just really trying to watch this to see if I will feel better but my heart is aching, and every moment feels empty without him. I'm holding on to the hope that we'll be together again, and my happiness will be restored.

Im so grateful I saw this video. Recently I beileved my relationship was amazing, but my ex was kinda crazy. She wanted a break, then the next day she followed her ex. So i reacted frustrated. She totally did the push pull. She blamed her mental health on me getting mad. But it was her not letting me know her feelings and she just lied all the time. THen just shut everything down. Im glad I saw this video. It is helping rewire my brain.

This video alone shows me that I am enough

Just block him he said he is Going to come after me i loved him truly, i alway felt something wrong, i went to someone who read people and she said this guy is married before and got divorce and he has alot of marriages for sex and he does it usually, i couldn't believe it as he is religious and he never looked at me but this is his way and yes i confronted him and he couldn't deny and try to make the lady look evil and he said she is the devil while she called him that as she saw in the reading and slips always that’s where i knew for sure everything was real. He mentioned using our chat to threaten me. Haven't met anyone more evil than him

The use of those insects around 5:10 - 5:20 really creeped me out wtf there was no need for those clips. Very uncomfortable watch

I was catfished for a few months. Sad thing is she sprinkled truth in her lies. I feel sad for her. I lost the plot for a bit and went full in on trying to find her. The pictures were real, she was real. She made up the person I talked to, but the sad thing is she used me to deal with her grief over losing her brother a year ago. Met on a dating app, and she shared things she loved, which helped me recover things I used to be into and loved. She caused me pain, but I understand now that she's dealing with hers, so I feel sad and wish her well.

Take care Kas. Even though you were made up, the parts of you I loved were truly there, in the person behind you, someone who was scared, not seen, not appreciated, and dealing with enormous loss. I loved you, and I was sad to lose you, so I hope you find peace.

True ❤ he was cheating on me .. he was sleeping around with women who was killing my careeer .. and I kept waiting ..

Thanks I needes this im single after 3 years 🤦🏿

I have been a Widow since 2016. I met someone else. I finally fell for someone else. I am mid 60. I think attractive petite. He ended up being a Narcissist I am sure. All about him. Not calling when he promised, giving me false hope for our future, always hanging on me at church. Now, he is chasing another woman at my small church. He is a problem. I have to leave my church. I can't take his crap. Moral of the story, don't date a guy in a small church (50). I have to see him all over her. He is stirring up strife. Geeeez

I needed this deeply 💯🙏🏽

Thank you Harry Potter really needed to hear this

the worst person i have met in my life that person never accepted her mistakes only blamed me for everything i tried to fix the problems but she never listens this type is most dangerous type i believe they gaslight u and at the end u are to blame for everything no matter how much i try to explain ur self she just wont listen dont be with someone like this if ur partner is like this its red flag

Sad....

Sad and true....so broken after going through a narcisstic relationship that almost destroyed me...

I’m the more emotional one and I’ve become abusive twice because he’s reached out to his exes and he’s mentally abused me. Sometimes I feel crazy .. and when I say I did abuse him I dragged him out of my bed because he kept bothering me and taunting me at 3am when I had my final exam the morning in nursing school. Now, I’m the one who is abusive because I have dragged him. He has brought the worst in me, but I didn’t just act like this. It’s so heartbreaking trying to prove mental abuse when I am the one who acted physically. But why does it still hurt when he leaves me? We’ve been together for 7 years, engaged for 3 and of course he un engaged me months before we broke up yesterday. I just feel useless I feel so old (in 27 now) and I feel like I will never find love.

I think he was trying to teach me to hate . Icky. How wierd

11 years. I lost my leg in the beginning and the way I was treated changed drastically behind closed doors. I stayed home with hour son until he started school from there we split a bit and got back together I worked 70 hour weeks for 2 years to save money to purchase and furnish a home she begged for she didn’t contribute a penny, I couldn’t get the basics, healthy meals and a clean home and I was manipulated into paying majority of the bills when that was never the plan. Slowly began to swim in debt she still refused to assist quit multiple jobs etc..things just progressively worse she then attacked me in front of my son and I called it quits. We both own the home so I tried to get her to leave for a year and she refused while still not assisting which lead me to bankruptcy. So after bankruptcy and me going on medical leave she filed a restraining order on me while I was at my son’s practice. I lost everything. 38 no savings bankrupt handicapped and had to move back in with my folks. Then to top it all off she is using the order as a way to control and limit my time with my son when I’ve been the real parent his whole life. I don’t think I can ever heal from this.

My boundaries - no addictions period, honest, naturally positive, loves God and loves life, a good communicator, be friends first, puts me first, invests in me and our relationship, emotionally connected, affectionate, have to be committed and meet family before even thinking about being intimate, protective of me and of people in general

My avoidant Ex gf burned me completely out. We Are in no contact since 7 months. She tried multiple times to come back with Breadcrumbs. btw she broke up with me , blocked me and tried 3 months later to Breadcrumb me at the Gym with eye Contact and Little Smiles . I was so disgusted of her behavior, i ignored her. She threw a fucking grenade in my Brain with her Patterns. My mind is a battlefield Right now, im so fed up with her bs.

During the relationship with a narcissist I didn’t have time and energy to focus on myself and I left him by saying that I need to choose myself and my dreams, and that I know that he will never choose me for real - and now I am judging myself so much cuz in my head was “I will break up and it will be time for me” but now I can’t have a single day without crying, I don’t know who I am so there is even no space to thing about “big, productive things”. But my self-judgement makes me slower down the healing process.. I am asking myself everyday “when I will feel better? Why he is chasing his dream again from the day 1. And I made huge step back?”

These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. A month ago, the man I spent five years with someone I loved deeply and considered my best friend walked away. Since then, I’ve been completely heartbroken. He wasn’t just someone I loved; he truly saw me in a way no one else ever has. Now, even the happiest memories hurt. Some days I hold it together. Other days, it all feels like too much. People keep saying time heals, but right now, everything still feels raw. I’m only sharing this because keeping it bottled up hasn’t helped it’s just been weighing heavier and heavier on me

Your going to still want to sleep with some of your exes it's alright break ups happen did the break up save your life or did reflecting on what happen make you grow as a person it takes time new people new places & when your ready revisit old places to build new memories 💪😇🍻