Stop Trying To Work Harder
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12:29 I don't know about that one. I'm 35, and I'm less satisfied than I was at age 25…
00:00 - Introduction
03:09 - What Happens If My Character Stats Suck?
The 60s weren’t easy! It was a time of ego driven excess. Sure people could work overtime to get a house and stuff. But they were led to believe they need more stuff and a bigger house. Boomers wouldn’t realise it’s all BS until they have “everything” but die mentally ill and feeling empty. Now we’re at the crest of the infinite growth curve.
We’re given the same narrative as the boomers but it’s no longer possible. We have to nurture our mental health and build a happy life with what little we have and based on who we are as individuals. We have a chance to live more fulfilling lives.
04:54 - You Have to Understand Yourself
09:55 - How Do You Work On Yourself?
Isn't tyrion an ENTP?
17:04 - How Do Personality Trains Affect My Success?
25:14 - Steps to Move Forward25:18 You Need to Make a Plan
boomers giving job advice:
did you give them a strong handshake? ok then I can't imagine why you didn't get a call after the interview
did you iron your pants? SEE that's why you didn't get it!
27:18 - You Need to Think Critically
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I was laid off, went to another company with a quarter of the pay and was seasonal. Job was great except for the inconsistent hours.
Now I’m pivoting career paths
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One simple thing I have known, I can’t do things fast 💨, in this day of efficiency and fast work I always lag behind and considered a failure.
I have come to accept it but people around me can’t. I was never perfect at the things I did but I still did it, but people won’t acknowledge thatI got better over time but not perfect.
No matter how hard I tried , it was the max I could attain and it was perfect to me , but the world sees imperfection or well that’s “just OK”.
I like learning things out of curiosity, maybe they are just useless and I don’t do it with the purpose of retaining them later on. Without the competition, that is when I find the most joy.
#drk #healthygamer #mentalhealth
To the author of the post: find what is RO-DBT and over control. Believe me, it's a prison and it's loneliness
More User Perspectives
You doin accents is THE BEST 😅😂
@neosolaris_filmThankfully, yes, these are skills you can cultivate. Character is not something given, but something you do repeatedly and cultivate. If you want to be an honest person, you just practice not lying, for example.
@smileyspoon1What if I don't even have a career in the first place?
@MiketheNerdRangerIt’s interesting to me hearing about the world the Boomer generation grew up in. My dad was a late-stage Boomer (born 1960), and entered the job market in the early 80’s. Older people told him he just needed to get a degree and go apply somewhere and he’d get a job. He had so much trouble getting a job, though. And he was in a city where there was plenty of his industry. He said it felt like no one cared if he had a degree. And when he started working (after almost a year of zero calls back), his wages were pitiful. He was barely paying rent as an engineer, and he wondered why he had even gone to college. It sounds so familiar to today, but this was 1982.
@riptide334029:00
in econ we called this intellectual honesty
what is the BEST argument against mine. there we would then have to refute that but here i think you learn from it and move forward with that
That's Dr K. having a go at riding new Fire-Horse Year energy, sounds like he's "high" on some potent stuff 😂. Made me feel like "wow, wow, easy does it, bro 😮!"
Had to drink a few glasses of water to his health, hope you find a way out of that speedy pace, Doc ! ❤From Paris 😊
I found that I've learned critical thinking myself when I was young because I had low self-esteem and was constantly criticizing myself.
Although I'm quite succesfull in my career, I was anxious all the time. Too much critical thinking is also bad...😢
Watched 16/02/2026
@pulkitjain6397Thing is if you have a real solid skill lets say e.g. you are great at C++ programming than your company really needs you and they will put up you being a jerk introvert and completely uninterested in people AND if you dont have a real solid skill than you will have to play all sorts of games which will sometimes work sometimes not and you get will drained sooner or later.
@AliHassan-zq2pf16:47 - an issue though is that intelligent people see all that for what it is .. a game that wastes time, opportunity and potential and dont want to even get involved in the first place .. its inefficient and not ideal for actually making money .. regardless of success level from such systems, its actually holding everything and everyone back but this is the very thinhg nobody wants to talk about because "well who the he** are you though" and "it is what it is" .. all crabs in a bucket mentality that doesnt even reach towards our true human potential either personally or economically .. - tldr: dont play such games if your smart and/or care for how things could be . focus on creating parallel systems and economies that negate legacy ones . may mercy and evolution find this world - fistbump*
@51L3NTF1R317:25 I have come to a conclusion before that ROI on studying is not good. That being said, studying atm because not studying seems like a guaranteed dead end, so jury is still out on the conclusion of that ROI. 30 year old European, three college/uni program dropouts at the present. Hoping to not make that four...
@Maniac0007Dr K is a millennial, Dr K understands.
@philippruizlozanosorry, i'm a hard worker, i'll work hard no matter the benefit, unlike today's new generation, i actually like to work hard
@questcore636I realized that i am just not meant to be a ceo or someone who owns a business. I just accept what i have and try to be grateful and happy everyday.
@PhilllinThis guy us God 😊
@JOJO-of8vlAesthetic appreciation negatively correlated……anyways impulsiveness, etc etc all positively correlated!
@lukemacon128:46 could be all kinds of things - but not lupus. It's never lupus
@deuteriuscawlBruh your accent is amazing!!! Sound like a North Carolinian 😂😂 7:36
@ShadowDaHamNo longer? When it was enough?
@prosysusBruh. GG should take his own advice lolol 😂 he is the one who constantly says how he never takes a break from work and then tells the world how he is having a “midlife crises “
@saraTToninTo anyone living in Canada reading this that is still deciding on a job. The canadian armed forces has a large range of jobs that are satisfying and rewarding that offers many other benefits. You may want to check it out. I don't like fighting but I want to give back to my country. I enlisted as a system technician and only needed a high school dilpma
@galorealot87I definitely woulda got kicked out of class if I had to sit beside the guy that kept saying "you just gotta show up and have some grit" like for certain . This has more voices than the Indian one is probably the second best thing in this video LMAOOOO
@emantercesa6324Your advice is good, but you have the attitude of that know-it-all kid that likes to hear himself talk.
It kinda takes away from the overall message when your voice grates on the ears.
This was a lot of psychobabble to essentially say nothing much beyond “be okay.” You acknowledge we’re in late stage capitalism but take the tired neoliberal therapist route on pushing responsibility entirely on the individual instead of fully admitting there are systemic forces behind all of this.
@badbabybear1The secret to work life is cultivating a willing suspension of contempt for your fellow man.
@Lore-M-Ipsum-yewWho. you. know.
@takeitsleezeeWhat helped me to understand myself was:
1 - taking notes about how i work and relate (where i must say no and where can i say yes); - > helped me see where i have to improve and plan, and not blame others for my success or failure;
2 - 30 mins/day meditation for emotional regulation -> helped me understand myself without blaming myself;
3- 1 h workout (mostly stretching) /4-5 times/ week -> helped my body and mind relax;
4- reading books -> helped me understand and being flexible for different ideas
5- weekends going out of home/city mostly in nature -> to recharge
All this things worked for me, for others might be something else. But i hope you all get the success you desire. (it won't come over night, have patience and break down the dream into small tasks and work on it).
P.S. i can't always do this consistently cause life comes with surprises all the time, but if u build a strong foundation you won't loose yourself in hard times.
Good Luck to you all!
"Its really hard to get a job these days"
*Skips what it needs to get a job these days*
"Prepare yourself to that when you have attained a job...."
Thanks, I guess.
9:37 imagine this segment playing after you pick up the phone
@miles_tails0511I've never related to something so much. Thank you for making this video! It was really reassuring! 😃
I'd love to see another video once you learn more about our experiences
Sometimes you can fix your self but the system is broken
@leviathanv3135This is about Job
@Kaspar502To artistically misquote Net Loss:
"The age of the artisan is upon us once again. It is time to be an artisan."
Look at that guy, he went to Harvard
@jaketriet7192How can you say this.. when everyday of my life I hear “u gotta work harder”💀😭🤣
@xhy3yag6216:44 "You're going to make me a lot of money on this deal." The balls.... Or heck maybe the boss didn't even know what he was conveying when he said it.
@CT-yc4gd