Things about Relationships I wish someone told me about

Thing is someone was talking behind my back, and being a jerk and hurting me and whatnot but my own parents were the ones telling me to forgive them and kept overlooking or not noticing the bad so now I’m stuck justifying their actions because my own parents wanted me to stay friends with them. This person literally “told on me” to my parents saying (I) was the one being a jerk when I wasn’t. So idk what to do anymore except hope it gets better or be stuck

It is so real. I feel like no one talks about this. I felt very scared and gaslit by my ex-partner because he outsourced a lot of his emotional responsibility to me by being passive-aggressive. And the way he communicates "subtly" and "nonverbally" actually makes no sense at all. And the fact that he tricked me into being more considerate of him without clear instructions or communication. It fucked with my head. And when I tried to say something, it was always about his old childhood trauma, and I can't say shit. It feels like everything I do would be "wrong" if he just decided so. I have to exist within his framework just to not be blamed or abandoned. I feel like when you have to start justifying them in front of your friends, that's when things turn really creepily and people can see things you can't.

Jaiden animations being a true YouTube role model

i have npd and it's really hard to admit that sometimes im not a good person in relationships. i do my best now to improve myself but it's so hard. i always feel like i need to be better and i hate admitting when im wrong, but i know that i have to. i know others don't deserve that behavior

I am the way I am because I watched this when I was 8 years old

I watched this when I was 13 when I wasn't exactly developed enough to internalize this information and ended up totally forgetting about it. I'm rewatching this at 20 years old, after 5 and a half years of therapy having only recently started actually practicing this after realizing that I'm gonna be the only person who's gonna be with me every single second of my life. Thank you Jaiden for externalizing my thoughts in such a beautiful way

I've watched this video like 10 times and in the year and half between last time and this time I've changed from ""oh, good video"" to ""somebody told me, and I failed every category except for drugs""

"dung it chad"

7:20 himiko toga spotted you can't hide from me hehehehehe

Watched this 5 years ago and thought "no way that actually happens"... GUESS WHO'S BEEN IN AN MANIPULATIVE RELATIONSHIP FOR THE LAST TWO YEARS :D. Thank you Jaiden and team ❤

Seeing this 7 years later after being in a toxic relationship has genuinely helped heal me! Jaiden this video is so good!

Oh, am i a bad partner?

i recently broke up witha toxic friend and this video made me realize just how bad our relationship was

I am just wondering, why did you do cigars cause cigars aren’t really bad

How do you know where white shaft is? I need to buy people.

Jaden, the price for the three icons is insane. Stop stop just stop stop making things so overpriced.

Rewatching this vid because 7 years later, the phrase "YOU ARE NOT PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONE'S HAPPINESS" is playing on loop in my head now.
I understand ts now.

I feel a bit stuck cos a random kid a couple years younger than me keeps venting to me in discord???
I can't just like.... ignore them... or tell them to stop venting cos like I know how much even strangers on the internet's actions can affect people.
But at the same time, it is in fact not my responsibility.
It is not my responsibility to be a goddamn therapist for them.
And I am scared of it turning parasocial and them mistaking my niceness and inability to purposefully ignore someone for anything more than what it is.
I don't want to suddenly turn cold or quiet or less supportive, cos that'd be like I "love bombed" and pulled back to make them want more??

and like what is wrong with ppl nowadays.
When is "I did it again :3" ever okay to say to people you've known less than say a year??/
These are your problems, and your responsibility, close friends can help, your family can help, a licensed and paid therapist can help, BUT LEAVE ME ALONNEEEE IDEK YOU BROOOo


funnily enough listening to MSI is now my coping mechanism for ppl like this
so I can get all the "I HATE EVERYONE" and "Boo f*king hoo you're not the only one who's life's a piece of sh-" (/ref) out in a safe and private space in order to be accepting and supporting in practice.

I did not know any of this but now I know

i rewatch this video every once in awhile because i seriously need to remind myself that i matter

7:20 WHO INVITED TOGA???? HI TOGA!!!!!

Dolphins are not cute they're evil demons and they know it

7:22 is that fucking himiko

this video had that perfect lemme just see what this is about energy and then somehow kept me watching till the very end 😂🔥

Toxic relationships make you feel guilty for asking for the bare minimum — respect, honesty, and consistency

did you draw toga when it said AAhh i’m going to be super manipulated today

has this video always been here?
i dont remember seeing it ever

This vid changed the way i look at world

It was this video that gradually made me recognize that my friendship with a close friend was getting to a toxic point because of his constant self-belittlement, being very inserted into my life without room to breathe and his occacional inmaturity.

I dismissed the red flags and kept trying to justify my friend, but its gotten to the point I can't anymore due to it having an affect on my energy and mental health.
Funny enough, for so long I worried that our friendship would become unhealthy much like two previous more blatantly toxic friendships I had - and in a way it ended up becoming true.

We are still friends - but one where I have to take a step back and reflect. We don't hang out nearly as often, but do sometimes talk.

5:20 JAIDEN WHAT 😭🙏

Personal notes:
o Bad influences from relationships are subtle and easy to overlook. Take your time and think about them carefully.

o Communication (and what you've concluded from it) helps with deciding to stay in or leave a relationship.

o "You are NOT responsible for anyone's happiness!"
my problem: I take it too far and end up not caring enough for others. Could possibly because I don't wanna be used like the video suggested; or, I'm selfish and think it's too much hassle to help.
solution: Don't reflexively avoid others' signs of needing help, think about what you can help and how much you should.

o Reflect on what forms your beliefs and drives your actions. You could hurt others without being self-conscious about it.

Some relationships can be avoided

“Classic toxic masculinity Chad! That’s not gonna end up problematic”
- Thad (Murder Drones)

this is the most TRUE thing ever thank you